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Parenting tips for the first five years.
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- 042 min0–1 yearsWords and feelingsThe first conversation happens long before the first wordCopy their sound back, then wait five whole seconds. The pause is the lesson, not the vocabulary.
- 043 min1–2 yearsWords and feelingsWhen the words are lateStop asking questions and start narrating. Then get hearing checked — it's the first thing to rule out, not the last.
- 012 min1–2 yearsGentle disciplineWhy no stops working around eighteen monthsSay where to go, not where to stop. Hands are for holding beats no hitting, every time.
- 032 min1–2 yearsLearning through storiesThe same book again, and why that's the pointLet them have the same book. Stop before the word they know and let them supply it.
- 042 min2–3 yearsWords and feelingsUse your words is advice a two-year-old can't takeLend them the sentence while it's happening. Save the coaching for ten minutes after.
- 012 min2–3 yearsGentle disciplineThe child who hits isn't a child who is bad at being goodGo to the child who was hurt first, not the one who hit. Then handle it in four words, calmly, every single time.
- 032 min3–4 yearsLearning through storiesHow to read a story so the lesson actually landsPause where the character is still stuck and ask what could he do now. Skip the moral on the last page.
- 012 min3–4 yearsGentle disciplineThe bedtime that actually endsMake the order fixed and the length negotiable-once. A routine a child can predict is a routine they stop arguing with.
- 012 min3–4 yearsGentle disciplineSharing is a skill, not a mannerLet the turn finish. A turn ended by an adult is a loss; one they end themselves is a gift.
- 022 min3–4 yearsPositive reinforcementSticker charts work, right up until they stopUse a chart to start something genuinely unpleasant, for a fortnight. Then swap it for description.
- 022 min4–5 yearsPositive reinforcementWhat to say instead of good jobDescribe what they did, not what they are. Clever is a title to defend; effort is repeatable.
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The idea
If you can't use it before bedtime,
it doesn't go in.
Every note starts from something that actually happened, usually the shoe or the digger, and ends with a sentence you can say out loud. Where the research is solid we say so. Where we're going on what worked in our own houses, we say that too, because those are not the same thing.
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Newest · 6 August 2026
How to read a story so the lesson actually lands
Three questions, asked at the right moment, do more than any moral tacked onto the last page. None of them start with what did we learn.
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Gentle discipline
Holding a limit without shouting, and what to say when the limit is the thing being tested.
Gentle is not the same as permissive. The boundary still has to be real. It is the delivery that we think should be kind.
1–2 years
Why no stops working around eighteen months
It's not defiance. A toddler hears the word, understands it, and still can't stop a body already in motion. The fix is giving the body somewhere else to go.
2 min
2–3 years
The child who hits isn't a child who is bad at being good
Hitting at two is a communication problem wearing a behaviour problem's coat. It ends fastest when the response is boring, immediate, and identical every time.
2 min
3–4 years
The bedtime that actually ends
Most bedtime battles aren't about sleep. They're about a sequence the child can't predict, and a last-request loophole that has been left open.
2 min
3–4 years
Sharing is a skill, not a manner
Taking the toy off one child and handing it to another teaches whose turn it's today. Turn-taking teaches how sharing actually works.
2 min
02
Positive reinforcement
Encouragement that builds effort rather than performance, plus the reward charts we think are worth skipping.
Praise what they chose to do rather than what they are. Clever is a title a child has to defend. Trying again is something they can do tomorrow.
3–4 years
Sticker charts work, right up until they stop
Rewards are good at starting a habit and quietly corrosive at keeping one going. Knowing which job you're asking them to do is most of it.
2 min
4–5 years
What to say instead of good job
Praise aimed at the child makes them careful. Praise aimed at what they did makes them brave. The difference is about four words.
2 min
03
Learning through stories
Why a story gets through where an instruction bounces off, and how to read one so the lesson lands.
No child has ever taken a lecture about bravery. They will take a rabbit who was frightened and went anyway.
1–2 years
The same book again, and why that's the point
The forty-first reading is doing something the first one couldn't. Repetition is how a toddler moves a story from listening to knowing.
2 min
3–4 years
How to read a story so the lesson actually lands
Three questions, asked at the right moment, do more than any moral tacked onto the last page. None of them start with what did we learn.
2 min
04
Words and feelings
The language half of the first five years, from the first babble to naming a feeling in the middle of a meltdown.
Feelings get manageable roughly in the order they get named, so lend the words long before you start asking for them.
0–1 years
The first conversation happens long before the first word
A baby who babbles and gets babbled back at is already learning how talking works. The turn-taking is the lesson, not the vocabulary.
2 min
1–2 years
When the words are late
Half the advice online is relax, they'll get there, and the other half is terrifying. Here is the practical middle: what actually helps, and when to stop waiting.
3 min
2–3 years
Use your words is advice a two-year-old can't take
Mid-tantrum, the part of the brain that finds words has gone offline. Lend them yours instead. The coaching can wait.
2 min
05
By age
The same notes, filed the other way — start from the child in front of you.
0–1
years
1–2
years
Late talking
When the words are late
Half the advice online is relax, they'll get there, and the other half is terrifying. Here is the practical middle: what actually helps, and when to stop waiting.
3 min
Limits
Why no stops working around eighteen months
It's not defiance. A toddler hears the word, understands it, and still can't stop a body already in motion. The fix is giving the body somewhere else to go.
2 min
Reading
The same book again, and why that's the point
The forty-first reading is doing something the first one couldn't. Repetition is how a toddler moves a story from listening to knowing.
2 min
2–3
years
Big feelings
Use your words is advice a two-year-old can't take
Mid-tantrum, the part of the brain that finds words has gone offline. Lend them yours instead. The coaching can wait.
2 min
Hitting
The child who hits isn't a child who is bad at being good
Hitting at two is a communication problem wearing a behaviour problem's coat. It ends fastest when the response is boring, immediate, and identical every time.
2 min
3–4
years
Bedtime
How to read a story so the lesson actually lands
Three questions, asked at the right moment, do more than any moral tacked onto the last page. None of them start with what did we learn.
2 min
Sleep
The bedtime that actually ends
Most bedtime battles aren't about sleep. They're about a sequence the child can't predict, and a last-request loophole that has been left open.
2 min
Other children
Sharing is a skill, not a manner
Taking the toy off one child and handing it to another teaches whose turn it's today. Turn-taking teaches how sharing actually works.
2 min
Motivation
Sticker charts work, right up until they stop
Rewards are good at starting a habit and quietly corrosive at keeping one going. Knowing which job you're asking them to do is most of it.
2 min
4–5
years
Why we write these
We'd rather be useful than right.
There is no shortage of people willing to tell you what kind of parent to be. We are not adding to that. These are the things that have worked, what the evidence actually supports, and the places we are still guessing — written down so you can try one on a bad evening and drop it if it does nothing.
If a note here helps at half past seven, it has done its job. That is the whole ambition.
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